Ironically the solution to the women's problems lies with the women themselves. The newspapers are replete with stories of horrifying crimes against women.
Why can't we bring up our daughters the way we bring up our sons? And even more important, why can't we bring up our sons the way we bring up our daughters?
I reflected deep and hard on this issue.
80% of a child's brain is formed by the time he is four. It's the mothers generally who influence the child till this age. The values and samskaras are laid by the mother in this period - of course in the cradle of the family. The atmosphere in which the child is brought up has a deep, indelible impression on the psyche of the child. If he/she see the father respecting the mother, ceding power rather than exercising it, walking two steps behind her in the public to show he is not a male chauvinist - the sons in such families are unlikely to grow into the monsters we read about these days.
Children learn more by show rather than tell. If boys are encouraged to help out the family in the cooking, kitchen winding up and girls are pushed to go out, contribute to family investment decisions, handle their own bank accounts, get the car servicing done themselves... imagine the difference it will make.
I am convinced the social matrix thus formed would be of men who are sensitive and sensitised to the women's heart and hearth. Responsible and caring, nurturing and protecting.
Why can't we bring up our daughters the way we bring up our sons? And even more important, why can't we bring up our sons the way we bring up our daughters?
I reflected deep and hard on this issue.
80% of a child's brain is formed by the time he is four. It's the mothers generally who influence the child till this age. The values and samskaras are laid by the mother in this period - of course in the cradle of the family. The atmosphere in which the child is brought up has a deep, indelible impression on the psyche of the child. If he/she see the father respecting the mother, ceding power rather than exercising it, walking two steps behind her in the public to show he is not a male chauvinist - the sons in such families are unlikely to grow into the monsters we read about these days.
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I am convinced the social matrix thus formed would be of men who are sensitive and sensitised to the women's heart and hearth. Responsible and caring, nurturing and protecting.
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